Why am I struggling to manage my grief?

Most people experience grief when they lose something or someone important to them. It can cause many different symptoms and it affects people in different ways. There’s no right or wrong way to feel. As well as bereavement, there are other types of loss such as the end of a relationship or losing a job or home.

Your grief might feel chaotic and out of control, but these feelings will eventually become less intense over time. If these feelings are affecting your life, there are things you can try that may help. You’re not alone – support is available.

Things you can do

  1. Try talking about your feelings to a friend, family member, health professional or counsellor.
  2. Try not to use alcohol, cigarettes, gambling or drugs to relieve grief.
  3. Do some exercise. Even moderate exercise releases chemicals in your brain that lift your mood.
  4. Consider peer support, where people use their experiences to help each other.
  5. Set small targets that you can easily achieve. You don't have to do everything at once.
  6. Try not to focus on the things you cannot change – focus your time and energy into helping yourself feel better

Useful links & resources

Bereavement Support Cruse
Cruse are the UK's leading bereavement charity. They exist to make sure that everyone grieving gets the support they need, when they need it.

Losing Someone to Suicide Mind
Mind provide advice and support to empower anyone experiencing a mental health problem.

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