How many times should I check in with someone who’s ignoring me? Is it me? Or them? How do I know?

If you are worried about somebody, it is important to check in with them but understand these things can take time.

Think of it as planting seeds, the first time you check in, they may not be ready for that conversation but as long as you are continuing to ask in a trusting, comforting and reassuring way, there will come a time when the person you are worried about may be ready.

This can be over the course of a day, a week, a month or a year.

There is no timeframe. Just continue to be there if you can.

Things you can do

  1. Check in, in a low pressure way
  2. Be reassuring
  3. Just continue to be there, if you can

Useful links & resources

The Hub Of Hope hubofhope.co.uk
The Hub of Hope is the UK’s leading mental health support database. It is provided by Chasing the Stigma, the national mental health charity, and brings local, national, peer, community, charity, private and NHS mental health support and services together in one place for the first time.

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